Today I write on my ‘how many’ chances, and wonder whether I can give myself one last chance, or whether it will be another 10 on the way. I understand I originally wrote this blog to help other people in my situation, all I can help you with is knowing I feel for you and I’m here walking through life in different shoes but we stepped in the same shit on the pavement and I know, it stinks like hell. Marie Kondo is someone who has changed my mind on tidying up and keeping things full of joy. No, the dog wouldn’t always listen to a command from his owner, only when he wanted to and very much had a mind of his own. Now, does this spark joy can be difficult here, but remember if it gives you shiny hair, you like the smell, you use it every day? Feeling so cold, she shook her head and quickly snatched out for the towel, behind the dog. Kitchen, bathroom, bedding, random objects around the house, ornaments, candles. I was maid of honour at her wedding and although I was happy to accept the role, I wish I hadn’t. When I explained that this hurt my feelings; I was told that “it was true, I was a difficult child and that I was horrible, so how would it hurt. Keep the best in a photo album that is accessible so you can spark joy whenever you want to look through them. Heavy cloud but no rain. Both times, I quit. Cheating on someone, usually (not always) happens for a reason. The clouds won't go till their work is done Fitness would have been at about 7 but that’s probably dropped back to a 1 now with my lack of motivation. Especially as I have never discussed what happened in much detail, even in a psychiatrists office. If you are doing this with your family or your other half, remember: what they decide to keep or throw away, is their business, respect their decision. I’m exhausted with headaches during the day time and wide awake at night time. If you like a good smelling bathroom, have an infuser ready to put in when you are finished. Get out all of your cutlery drawer. Whipping and changing with every new wind I ran out of steam. Not feared into ‘where do I start’. Heavy cloud but no rain The sun won't shine till the clouds are gone The clouds won't go till their work is done And every morning you'll hear me pray If only it would rain today I asked my baby if there'd be some way She said she'd save her love for a rainy day I look in the sky but I look in vain Probably not! As a child, we usually associate this with saying ‘I can’t sleep’. Now if you excuse me, I might call my old friend Patrick, to thank him. It reminds me that everything can be reachable, all you need to do is try again, even if you don’t quite get there, you will be one step closer for next time. When I got off the phone, my mind raced. If the dog wanted something he would stand over his owner with his growling face hanging over them so the owner would feel stuck and trapped. I always feel like you are there to listen and understand me, even if I’m blubbering down the phone. Once I had seen this in action, I got excited and started almost immediately (First, coffee). He'd be the bluest blood they'd ever seen However, for the few of us that are not in the every-so-often group, we suffer with this almost every night. Every time I open the kitchen sink cupboard I’m not stressed, I’m happy to see everything I need and seeing it well organised, folded and most importantly stress free. So I just ‘lived without’ for two days so that I would have to deal with the confrontation. If so, find a place for it, where it ‘sparks joy’ for you. Those feelings were not left behind for me and they followed with me in bags wherever I went. It’s hard to know exactly what it was that created the sense of me going back to that moment, even for me, but something as simple as standing in a certain position, being a trigger was something I never could have imagined happening. She attempted to wrap the towel around her cold body as the dog pulled on the corner. I enjoy studying, but loose interest quickly. Next I pluck up the courage to call the pharmacist to see if they have my prescription ready, it’s ready and thank goodness as I ran out two days ago. Screens have been proven to keep you awake at night. So with this in mind, I add one more step onto the does it spark joy? It was different after watching her program, this time, I was excited. although I feel a lot further back than I was in February, I am much further forward than three weeks ago. If only it would rain today. Just remember with this stage that if it gets hard, walk away and go back. We’ve all seen the quotes online, the many spiritual signs that tell us to remove these ‘negatives’ from our lives. Understanding the pain and the anxiety, letting me enjoy the little things that I can. Whatever floats your boat & whichever makes you comfortable. Every-so-often we lay our head on the pillow and attempt to sleep with no success. But the common place at funerals and a wake. Everything seemed to be going really great. If so, it should be treated that way. At this time you can also imagine your expectations of the space and how much happier you will be when its tidied. My mother in law to be and her husband – You guys always stand by me, I feel so close to you and everything you do always helps me to feel a little more accomplished. Or perhaps someone who was once in our lives left that; and now gone (sip that coffee now), it sits among these other objects. Let’s talk about Marie Kondo, fitted sheets and tidiness. If you know someone who can be set off with a ‘trigger’ of their own, understanding is key. My main skill is problem solving, I can get puzzles and riddles surprisingly fast. Heavy cloud but no rain. 48 hours later and I’m writing this in the hope that it might help someone else to spot the negative in front of them. Nevertheless, I'm sure you'll be able to figure out and I hope it will help you! Patrick tried to tell me about negative people as he believed another good friend of mine was a ‘negative influence’ on my life, bringing me down. So, yes. Careful with electrical items, some charities can’t accept them, so find one that will by giving them a call. I rolled over to grab my Nintendo switch to check if my harvest was ready (Farm Together) and had a cuddle with the dog for half an hour before dragging myself up to make a coffee. The dog’s bared teeth were glaring through the glass like light holes in the demonic smudge. Not just a moaning groaning person that might complain about the odd bus fare but someone who can go out of their way to say mean and unexplainable things about someone, whether a close friend or someone whom they dislike. No, bro. Anything from; I’m sorry to I’m deeply apologetic would do. If you want to keep it, that’s okay, but respect your judgement. You will now be looking at a straight line on the right. She's Too Good for Me #6. Now is the time! If I didn’t set an alarm, most days I would sleep right through and wake up at 5pm ready to go. It doesn’t contain the correct sort of bars and notes. If I Ever Lose My Faith in You #2. Not what other people, would love you, to do. Of course, I had been told this many times over the years, to explain just how terrible I was as a child. Why? I have to thank a few people now who have kept me sane and spent time to look after me, understand me and dealt with my shitty moods; My Partner – You are here for my every day, my ups and my downs, every moment of every hour you listen to me and if I’m not happy you stop what you are doing and help. Heavy Cloud No Rain. Surely not? What is it you want out of life? Or should I take my happiness into my own hands? Seriously though. After the day ended, I was so relieved and I was so proud I made it through without a panic attack, even when the back of my dress ripped right up my arse cheek and the car tyre went flat, I held it together – for me, one hell of an achievement. I have worked in many different jobs, but never found what I really want. Heavy cloud, but no rain Well the land was cracking and the river was dry All the crops were dying when they ought to be high So to save his farm from the banker's draft Looking back at the situation, if we were older, we would have broken the relationship off long before. This goes into cleaning materials as well, if you don’t like the smell of that cleaning product, do you really want your bathroom to smell like that? For a long time I decided that I wouldn’t be fit for dog ownership but after a lot of thought and help, owning a dog was a great idea and it worked. I line tea towels and sponges in a separate box to the cleaning products so every time I open that cupboard, its neat, organised and I know where to find everything. I’m back on medication for anxiety and depression. Love Is Stronger than Justice (The Munificent Seven). – Now wait a minute, this isn’t my first attempt at a degree. I cry again when he goes to collect it, thinking recurring thoughts of how much better off he would be without me. I suppose the only thing I could work out was perhaps the way he stood, the idea that something of mine, was being taken from me? – Do you really use this and as Marie Kondo puts it, do you want to take this into your future? Books, use the same method. It wasn’t discussed in much detail and we parted ways with lots of tears and hurt feelings. This time depression got me, before I could catch it, a feeling I hadn’t experienced in some time. Under the kitchen sink? If there is a pot that you hate and think is horrible, you don’t use it because it always scratches the cooker or whatever your reason is. I couldn’t forgive myself for a long time and eventually gave myself a second chance. The dog jumps up to say good morning (don’t worry, my partner had fed her). You will notice that afterwards, you feel a great deal of relief, during the process it is draining and emotional – more so than I expected! [Verse 1] Write it down – Ever start drifting off and then remember something you mustn’t forget to do tomorrow? I can see this being an issue. Heavy Cloud, No Rain ... clouds looming over his former Blind Melon bandmates’ heads to retreat. Good old depression, he didn’t mean to be angry. She hopped into the shower and ran the hot water over her body, the dog sat growling and barking through the glass. Heavy cloud but no rain The sun won't shine till the clouds are gone The clouds won't go till their work is done And every morning you'll hear me pray If only it would rain today I asked my baby if there'd be some way She said she'd save her love for a rainy day I look in the sky but I look in vain That green and pleasant land was suffering from a lack of rain, so I started to write this song, “Heavy Cloud No Rain. If it doesn’t spark joy for you, say thank you to your item and gently place it in the charity box. Choose that over something that you never use, is put at the back of the cupboard and is a smell you don’t like. This is very much a lovely final addition to your bathroom, I actually like to have my folded towels on show now because when visitors use the bathroom, they comment on them being so neat and tidy. If you have tried this process. So, you can’t throw out things that you should keep for 10 years, so all I suggest is get a folder for these things first. For most of my life, this one person has told me that I was difficult as a child, I was immature, messy, unapproachable, scary, horrible and ‘nasty’. I was reminded recently; to do what you love, not what other people would love you to do. I spent time doing this, but it does get tiring at the end of the process. Heavy cloud, no rain "Turned on the weather man just after the news I needed sweet rain to wash away my blues He looked at the chart but he look in vain Heavy cloud but no rain" -Sting, Heavy Clouds, No Rain Most of us as adults know the term insomnia. [Verse 4] She left through the door, and he followed. We rescued our very own black dog, ironic? – 8 years on, I hope I’m ready. Without Sting, this wouldn’t even be a song. Next you want to get out everything that is left. My emotional state froze. Recognise, the products you often cook with and love using. Watch the video for Heavy Cloud No Rain from Sting's Ten Summoner's Tales for free, and see the artwork, lyrics and similar artists. Nevertheless, I'm sure you'll be able to figure out and I hope it will help you! Heavy cloud but no rain The sun won't shine till the clouds are gone The clouds won't go till their work is done And every morning you'll hear me pray If only it would rain today I asked my baby if there'd be some way She said she'd save her love for a rainy day I look in the sky but I look in vain But at least one step out of the darkness can shed some light onto the situation. – This part I guarantee you will love. If you treat your items like shit, surely you are treating yourself like that? I strongly advise you do washing loads in smaller amounts so that you feel motivated each time, (especially if you suffer from depression), lots of small steps is much easier than one great big leap. Heavy Cloud No Rain #5. [Verse 2] I love you and I don’t know where I’d be without you. If it’s clothes, don’t worry about folding it just yet. You should now have a somewhat rectangular shape. The conversation went somewhat like this; “you don’t understand, she is always like this! I was incredibly happy! Who would have seen the signs? You can actually buy some that are called relaxation/ sleepy/ bedtime, have a look you will be surprised how much this can help. Where do you expect to be in 5 years, 10 years time? If, like me, you find something in your cupboard that you have never used, chances are you probably wont. The royal astrologer was run out of breath Add on the fact that I have been out of work for over a year and the future looks, bleak. From reading about this, our book readers are very offended that you should get rid of books, but what she is trying to say is that you look at that shelf of books and it brings you happiness because you see all the books that have brought you joy. FAVORITE (7 fans) Sting. (Unreviewed) “Tweaks ~ Heavy cloud but no rain” is the 3rd track off of Korean girl group, GWSN’s 4th EP titled, “the Keys”. The word triggers has more than one meaning, but here I refer to mental health, mainly, PTSD triggers. When you have piled all of your clothes onto your bed, you can stand back and admire your collection of clothes. If anyone questions what you want to do and brings themselves into why you should/ shouldn’t do something. He looked at the chart but he look in vain Bathroom is a good one to start on. I think originally it was called "Heavy Guitar No Brain,” but we uh, (laughs) we developed this thing. I used to let the pharmacy know if I ran out and forgot to order (which I ALWAYS do, because organisation isn’t my strong point anymore) but they told me off last time for having to tide me over for the second time with 3 tablets. Sentimental clothes – sometimes we keep items of clothing, perhaps that we have grown out of, but love. I have attempted university once and open university once. She put the towel down and the dog started to wag his tail again. So who do we call? This definitely ‘sparks joy’ for me! But is it that simple? What is it that I want to have in my life, a job or a career? – People who truly love you, will love you no matter what you do, rich or poor, clever or not. Don’t talk about it, do it. I look in the sky but I look in vain The wedding itself and the night before, I couldn’t sleep a wink. Papers. I asked this question over my now, 26 years of life and I am still struggling to find the answers. The sun won't shine 'til the clouds are gone The clouds won't go 'til their work is done And every morning you'll hear me pray If only it would rain today . The idea is, if it does, keep it. When explaining this method to my friend Christie the other evening, I said, in the morning I open my drawers and I am so happy. I went away on a hen party trip which was a shambles from the very beginning, two other girls on the trip were, let’s just say – not the nicest of people. Oh this can be hard. She glanced at the bed, thinking how easy it would be to go back and give up fighting the big black dog. If it’s sentimental, put it aside in a different area. A lot of the time, I can turn around in bed on average of two to four hours every night. Heavy Cloud, No Rain ... clouds looming over his former Blind Melon bandmates’ heads to retreat. I am an intelligent person, but as I discussed with my closest friend Christie the other evening, I’m good at lots of things but don’t excel in any particular area. Most days I am in pain and have a pins and needles feeling in my feet, hands or cheeks. Also, you are more likely to wake up again when the programme changes/ an advert comes on. Depression is here again today and it will be again tomorrow. I used to. Heavy cloud but no rain Heavy cloud but no rain . We finished redecorating the house and it was looking fantastic. I feel like I should learn to moonwalk, at least then I could take steps backward with style. Yes, another program about tidying up! (Yes I appreciate I’m not the only one in this situation, but would a little communication hurt?). I felt sorry for her, she didn’t have many friends and so to see her laughing, even at my expense, was a wonderful thing. The dog wasn’t having a good day today so the owner went to grab a towel to have a shower and the dog barked at her. I never thought of it the other way around until my friend rightly said; ‘Do you realise that, that is abuse?’. I asked my baby if there'd be some way. She supports me when I’m down and helped me meet new people, mostly other dog owners, but some new friends – WOW! Now, if you look online for drawers of Marie Kondo method, granted they are much tidier than mine. Negative people eh! It’s best to lie it on a floor or a clean bed the first time you do this. 90,600. I was well and truly putting myself last, I was having my hair done and doing my own personal care on the outside, but not on the inside. Now in a situation where, I had a mental health breakdown and was signed off from work, I seek working from home positions, which seem to be non-existent. If you have photos, get them out. I just like this idea of Louis XVI having an astrologer who would tell him that his, his (laughs again), his execution could be postponed if it rained, y'know? I’m smart and can apply theory easily, but not in the academic sense. – I access playlists on Spotify but you can equally get some on youtube or on a podcast streamer. Some days the dog would stand with his tail wagging, knocking off every item from the dresser. Good for your wallet, good for your body and good for the environment. Sorting through things is an emotional journey, you can feel sad seeing one thing, happy seeing another, strange when you find a top that belonged to someone else and confused when you can only find one shoe. 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